You've done all the things, but you feel disconnected from your life...

If you're an empath or people-pleaser, 

here's what no one tells you

It's not about being helplessly too nice. It's not a personality flaw you were born with. And it's definitely not something you can just stop doing overnight. 

People-pleasing is a survival pattern you likely learned to feel safe, loved, or belonging. At some point in your life, being agreeable was how you adapted to survive. Staying in your lane kept you likable. 

But what protected you then is exhausting you now. There can be so many layers of programming in your subconscious that isn't even yours - No wonder you feel disconnected.

The cost?

• You're trying to live a life designed by someone else. Is there something you've always wanted to do, but tell yourself "I could never" because (fill in the blank)?
• Your boundaries exist only in your head (if at all). You might avoid saying things because you don't want to upset someone. Then you start getting resentful...
• You're teaching everyone it's okay to take advantage of you, but can you blame them? You tell everyone you're good and continue to burn yourself out. 
• You're modelling patterns you don't want your kids to inherit. You start to see the same things you went through showing up in their lives.
• You're so disconnected from yourself that you don't even know what YOU want. When someone asks, you stutter.

If any of these sound like you (or all), I feel you. I know it because I lived it. Several times over. Kept doing things for a 'successful' life, ticking all the boxes. It looked perfect from the outside.

Partner at an agency, married, kids, house in the burbs, everyone's favourite colleague – But actually miserable and no idea what to do.

It took losing everything again years later, to realize I had built my entire life on other people's expectations of what I should be doing with my life. I was resentful because I was saying yes to other things, while saying no to myself. 

What is Transformational Coaching?

Traditional therapy often focuses on healing past wounds, unlike transformational coaching which focuses on your personal growth, empowerment, and future.

• Develop a growth mindset that allows you to break free from old patterns
• Gain clarity on your goals and create an actionable life plan that's authentic to you
• Overcome subconscious obstacles like self-doubt and limiting beliefs that hold you back
• Understand the ways in which you self-sabotage yourself. Learn about your shadows, build the tools (and grace) you need to work them. Even use them to your advantage.
• Build unshakeable confidence in yourself, tap into motivation and hold accountability to stay on track
• Step into the leadership of your own life story fuelled with purpose and fulfilment

Using proven coaching frameworks, I'll help you transition from a place of uncertainty to a mindset of confidence, clarity and action.

You just have to want it. Only you can choose to do it. I can help you get good at it. It's kinda like fitness coaching, but for your life. We get that heart working for you. 

The Cost of Waiting vs. The Price of Change

Every day you wait, you are:

• Continuing to teach people it's okay to take advantage of you.
• Getting further disconnected from who you really are.
• Building resentment that will eventually burn you out.
• Delaying opportunities meant for you.

But change can feel scary because you think you'll lose everything.

Here's the truth: You'll lose relationships built on you being fake. You'll lose obligations you never wanted. You'll lose the exhaustion, the resentment, the Sunday scaries.

What you'll gain? Everything that matters. Energy. Authenticity. Real connection. Purpose. Joy.

The price of transformation is facing temporary discomfort. Do the healing. The cost of staying the same is continuing to live a life that isn't yours.

hi, i'm Carlos.

I spent two decades helping brands find their authentic voice. Then I had a breakdown that forced me to find my own.

After cycling through the same patterns for the better part of my life, I finally got to a point where I understood where I had been going wrong... I'd been chasing everyone else's version of success.

When I decided to start over (again), I took the same methodology I used to transform brands to do a deep dive on myself. What started as a personal 'rebrand' evolved into a complete life transformation.

Now I help other people-pleasers break free from the same exhausting patterns, and help design lives that actually feel fulfilling. This isn't you "fixing" youself, it's more stopping to pretend you're someone that you're not anymore. It's time to step into the authentic version of you (you won't regret it).